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Telling my kids I have cancer - again

Categories: Mommy Angst


I hope none of you ever have to have a conversation with your kids like the ones I had this week.

To Jessica, 28, via text: I was admitted to hospital last night from ER. I have a mass in abdomen that looks like enlarged lymph node. Having biopsy and further CT scans in the next couple days. Should know more soon.

To Nathaniel, 16, who emailed me about flying out to visit me this week: I am in the hospital having tests and then later, The cancer has metastacized, I’ll be in treatment, I don’t know what’s next.

To Serena, 12, on Skype: The cancer I had is back. It’s Stage 4. That’s really, really bad. The medical community doesn’t give much hope and doesn’t know how to treat this very well. I will be doing all I can.

To Eric, 8, who has Down syndrome: I love you, sweet boy!

I believe our children should face the tough stuff with us. Families go through hard times together. I wished I had known as a teenager that my parents were rapidly losing money in their multi-level marketing endeavor and had three mortgages before the pressure caused them to divorce and suddenly I had to request financial aid for college. I could have made different choices. I could have supported them. At the very least, I would have known. Knowing makes a difference.

Do you tell your kids the tough stuff?

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4 comments so far...

  • I am so, so sorry.

    Melospiza  |  August 15th, 2012 at 11:17 am

  • Thank you, that’s very kind. :)

    Talyaa  |  August 15th, 2012 at 2:36 pm

  • I’m sorry you have to face this, and I hope you know how much people love you and wish you and your family strength.

    Lylah  |  August 16th, 2012 at 9:27 am

  • Thank you, Lylah! Yes, I am very grateful for the love from my family, friends and community. It’s been rather awesome.

    Talyaa Liera  |  August 16th, 2012 at 3:44 pm