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Dealing with the dreaded play date

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By Maria of BORED Mommy and The Bad Moms Club

School is starting up again, which means one thing. Play dates.

I’m not a fan.

I didn’t mind them when they involved my baby, cooing in his stroller, while my girlfriend and I talked it
up. Technically NOT a play date as there was only one child there – mine - but to me, that’s a good play

I hate them more than I hate celery. And Miley Cyrus. And a fork in my near-sighted eyeball.

Maybe it was being scarred by the kid who came over, and then stole my son’s Yoda Lego character, and
then kept insisting that play dates only happen at our house, and only in my son’s room (also known as
Mecca – Land of Lego). Sorry kid, void of any personality and the ability to giggle, please go now. Don’t
come back now – like ever.

Perhaps it was when we were invited to someone’s home for a play date, only to discover that my
children and I were now on an un-aired episode of Hoarders.

Or how about the then five year old who came over for a play date with her mom, and refused to play
with my kids, because all she wanted to do was go home and breastfeed. Yup – a five year old who
wanted to breastfeed. That one was all sorts of awkward.

Did I realize that having a child would mean that I would have to hang out with people that I have zero in
common with? Did I know that people would expect me to have these play dates several times a week,
forcing me to clean as if I had an imminent open house coming up? Hell no. I don’t remember having
play dates when I was younger – then again, with five kids in the house, play dates weren’t necessary. I
just need to have three more babies, and I’ll be FREE!!!! Putting triplets on the to-do list right now.

No amount of caffeine can take away the pain of a play date – believe me I’ve tried. I have the Starbucks
receipts to prove it.

How about you? Are you a lover or a hater of the Play Date?

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5 comments so far...

  • I have only one child so I sort of feel that playdates are a necessity. She’s a very social child and wants a lot of kid time. And, since most families have more than one child, aka built-in entertainment, I feel I’m the one who is most often doing the calling and arranging. And that’s very hard for me. The playdates themselves often go well.

    Jenn  |  September 1st, 2010 at 12:29 pm

  • My daughter does not seem overly interested in play dates. She’s had a few but it was glorious for both of us, when there was a girl living next door just a little older. The girls could do popovers, if neither of us were receiving that day we just didn’t open the door. Not having to put on coats & mittens and tramp through the snow to go play? Awesome! Being able to say to a bored child “why don’t you see if X wants to play?” Sweeeet!!!
    Alas - they moved to a larger home many miles away to accomodate their growing family. New neighbors have only grown children. Anyone with a 6-10 year old want to move into our area? The place 3 doors down is for sale….

    Mich  |  September 1st, 2010 at 4:14 pm

  • No play dates here. My kids have each other. If someone wants to come over and play, fine and dandy - the more the merrier (but don’t leave with our stuff). But I’m not going to stress about it.

    We have a granny down the street who babysits for her grandkid, same age as my kids. My nanny used to do play-dates with the three girls about once every week or two. The little girl has immunity issues, so when my kids started preschool and entered into the Snot Factory season of their lives, we canceled several consecutive “dates” (including her b’day party) and haven’t heard from them since. Oh, well. With my kids in all-day preschool, they certainly don’t lack socialization.

    SKL  |  September 2nd, 2010 at 1:22 am

  • I’m not a big fan either…and try to avoid as much as possible. Having several parks and playgrounds nearby though has saved me of this situation several times. My standard answer is “hey, we’re gonna be at playground X at 10 on Saturday, why don’t we let the girls meet and play there? I’ll be bringing a coffee, maybe a blanket…”.

    It’s easier that way.

    Javamom  |  September 4th, 2010 at 9:16 am

  • Amen! So glad to know that I’m not the only one!

    Dawn  |  October 28th, 2010 at 2:24 pm