As a single Mom, I’m assaulted daily with all the various ways my fractured home might manifest itself in my son’s future psyche.
He might not go to college. He might harbor secret resentment. He’s more likely to have a broken relationship himself. He might have some kind of messed up social dysfunction that can be directly traced back to that time his Father and I had a fight about hair whiskers in the sink. Or not.
It’s easy for me to absorb and ponder the negative and disregard the positive, especially when I’m sprinting at breakneck speed, vacuumed relentlessly in the day-to-day challenges of being my son’s Mom, a business woman, a daughter, a sister, and an often cranky, overtired human. But there are so many amazing things that triumph from the challenges of a single parent home. Current hero-of-the-day Michael Phelps is one. I have a few more. The wonderful parts of single parenthood often get swept under the mat, but really: they’re rich and they’re many.
Here are my 8 favorite things about being a Single Mama:
1.) I never have to passively aggressively huff as I lift giant man-underwear from the bathroom floor and heave it painstakingly into the laundry bin. I never have to wretch at small black hairs in the sink again.
2.) My son has equal appreciation for hockey and So You Think You Can Dance.
3.) We can eat souffle for dinner and cheesecake for dessert, or cereal and olives and if there’s a mess, we can leave it.
4.) The indescribable pride that comes from providing for a small human being, a piece of my heart, all by myself.
5.) When my son does spend time with his Dad, I have the whole weekend totally to myself. This wouldn’t happen, otherwise.
6.) There is no “unsafe to enter” time period in the bathroom in the morning.
7.) The knowledge that no one ever takes my son for granted: he is loved by so many people and rarely sees anger or discord in any form.
8.) Unapologetically falling asleep with him in his bed, waking up with small chubby hands on my face in the morning.
It’s really not all doom and gloom. In fact, a lot of it is pretty fantastic.