with Karli Larson
The transition from stay-at-home mom to divorced-and-working-full-time mom can be challenging, and sometimes very lonely. Throw in a few cats, an ancient dog and one very brave boyfriend, and life gets downright crazy. Join me as I talk through my thoughts and struggles, my miscalculations and my triumphs. We're in this together, you and I.
When I'm not writing here you can find me over at work on the TisBest Philanthropy blog.
I don’t believe I can have it all. I don’t mean that in a negative way, just realistically.
As a single Mom, (taking romantic love out of the equation) looking only at the triage of home, work, and child, I can only keep two happy. Most of the time, it’s my home that is the neglected of the three, covered in secret dust bunnies, holding sad crusty dishes in her sink. I’ve tried the house cleaner route, but it’s too much of a luxury right now and honestly: my son is number one, my work is number two, and the smudges on the bathroom mirror will just have to wait.
I have found, though, that there are a few small things I can do that allow me to have maximum bike-riding time with Nolan, completing my work and maybe making a bed or two. Here are my best 5 timesavers.
1. Make the child’s lunch the night before. I never feel like putting casserole in tupperware or making a sandwich at 9:00 PM after Nolan’s in bed, but when I make his lunch in the evening, I’m always so grateful the next day. I’ll never feel like doing it more in the morning, no matter how earnestly I try to convince myself.
2. Set the alarm clock to have an hour to myself in the morning. This is harder than it sounds, because sleep is so precious and rare around here. Plus, my son is an early riser, pattering out of bed around 6:00 AM. But if I get up at 5:00 and have a shower and make a pot of coffee, the morning runs so much more smoothly than attempting to shower with a squirmy, splashy three-year-old.
3. Go for a noon-hour run. I work better in the afternoon if I work out at lunch, rather than in the evening. My mind is sharper for my afternoon work if my body is happy and exercised.
4. Keep a clean desk. This is a tough one for me: I thrive on sticky notes and I go at a million miles an hour: writing, compiling, multitasking. But if I organize my desk at the end of each day, I can find things so much easier on a daily basis, saving time and frustration.
5. Take an hour every week for myself. It’s tough, especially as a single parent, to find selfish me time. A babysitter must be lined up, there are a million things to be done at home. But an hour of yoga, or of book browsing, or a simple Tuesday-night hike, is refreshing and allows me to concentrate on the small, necessary things. Like building blocks to the moon with my son, and maybe contemplating those dishes in the sink.
What small things do you to to create more time for what’s important?
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