Gracefully handling the exes
Categories: Hoping for Love, Sleepless in the Board Room, Tentative Steps
My friend Lara never ceases to amaze me with her grace. A quiet, intelligent woman with an aura of calm, she somehow manages to juggle an active social life, superior Motherly skills, and a prestigious job in pharmaceuticals. She’s also beautiful, and a ton of fun, and I don’t think she’s going to be a single Mom for long.
Even though her husband is (in my totally biased opinion), a bit of a jerkwad - she handles him with aplomb. In fact, she also handles his exes with deft grace: her husband had been married once before he married Lara and my friend is friends with the First Wife of her Ex. What? I know.
This weekend Lara was telling me with her usual practical intonation that she’d gone for dinner with Cathy, the First Wife of her ex, and I was watching her with my mouth agape and my shoulders slumped a little in defeat.
“Man, I’m not nearly as good a person as you.” I thought of my ex and his ex girlfriends and though we were never married, I am certain I’ll never have any desire to eat artichoke dip on the patio with a woman he’s slept with.
That’s how it’s been, with my ex boyfriends, anyway. I think of most of them fondly - remember Dale’s ice blue eyes, Jay’s riotous sense of adventure, the earnestness of Derek - but I don’t particularly want to be bosom buddies with any of them, and I’m not overly interested in their current conquests.
But it struck me, over my weekend conversation with Lara - that perhaps the current relationship of your ex is a little more significant when the two of you share a child together.



