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“I Am a Good Mom and I Smoke…”

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What do you do when your own resume reveals something about you that could make a potential client not want to work with you?

When I began my medical editing business, I had on my resume, against my husband’s advice, an article I had published in Salon several years ago. He advised me to take it off because the article was about the fact that I smoked, and I was trying to get clients who were physicians, and who were most decidedly anti-smoking. I scoffed: “I’ll be sure to tell them I put the cigarette down long enough to make their edits.” I didn’t even smoke very much, and that is part of what my article was about. But still.

I was in conversations with a client who headed up a tobacco prevention program, though I did not fully understand this at the time he requested my resume. He looked at it and then emailed me back asking me whether I still smoked, because he had never hired someone who smoked before. I sat before the computer in shock. I was stunned. I could not believe my own hubris, my own stupidity. I thought the publication in Salon would outweigh the content. And here I was, about to lose a gig because of it. What to do? I suppose I could have written back that I didn’t smoke anymore. How would he have known? But deep inside, I knew that he would know. It was bad enough to have the habit. I wasn’t going to lie on top of it. At heart, I am a geeky, honest person.

I wrote back briefly that I did still smoke, still in the same small quantities as I had written about in the article, and that I hoped this wouldn’t be a barrier to our working together. As I hit send, my heart sank because I really wanted the chance to work with this client, and I was quite sure that I had blown it before I began. He wrote back that he suspected my attachment to smoking was more emotional than physical, and thanked me for my honesty. I got the gig. What was most important to him was that I respected him enough to tell him the truth. And that day I learned that a lot of people can edit, and there are probably many people who can do my job. But perhaps my ability to do my work had a bit more to do with who I actually was in addition to my abilities than I had previously ever suspected.

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  • Like you said, there are many editors out there, but I think the ability to establish long-term professional relationships outweighs details like smoking in the long run. Of course, with this particular client in the actual field of smoking prevention it was trickier.

    So did you remove the Salon cittion?

    KateiK  |  August 1st, 2007 at 6:23 am

  • KateiK– Yes, I did!

    jcreer  |  August 1st, 2007 at 2:23 pm

  • I just went back and read your original Salon article, and it reminded me of a friend of mine who is pretty much the same type of smoker you are, and for some similar reasons.

    But I think the bigger point of this is that when you’re questioned about something on your resume, you have to be honest about it. It may cost you an opportunity, but if you’re not and you get caught later - and odds are you will, one way or another - it could cost you credibility as well, which is a lot harder to recover. I don’t think you need to volunteer anything that ISN’T asked, but you can’t dodge responding to what is, and I think you made the right move in this case - and it paid off.

    But by not including that article on your resume anymore, you won’t be dealing with THIS particular question again! :-)

    Florinda  |  August 1st, 2007 at 7:32 pm

  • Honesty IS the best policy, isn’t it?
    :)

    KathyHowe  |  August 2nd, 2007 at 12:07 am

  • You smoke? I’ve spent days in your presence - even a couple of overnights. I had NO IDEA. Now I need to go read that article.

    Salon. Wow.

    MaryP  |  August 15th, 2007 at 7:02 pm

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