with Avi Spivack
Hi, I'm Avi, and I try to put the work and the dad together, with mild success. This is all about trying to give you a view from what it looks like on the dad-man's side of the world, and I hope you find my ruminations humorous because I try not to take myself too seriously.
I was going to write about what I learned from my daughter’s Preschool class, when I went to give a little lesson on Hanukkah in December (I’ll save that for next time). But then I read Miss Britt’s post over on “full time, all the time” and I could not resist a response.
Among the working parents of the world, you women/mothers have the true rotten end of it, without a doubt. Yes, there is a reason why “working mom” lands you millions of results and “working dad” many fewer - it’s because you mothers are indeed the primary parents, and while I do think of myself as a working father, it is my wife who holds it all together: the schedule, the snack, the breakfast, lunch, dinner, birthday presents and everything else I am forgetting.
In our family at least, I am the support staff, my wife the chief executive. I “help” her. We both work, we both parent, but I defer to her.
Is the “I can have it all” mentality in play? Maybe, but I think we all know by now that no one can really have it all - something has to give.
Sure, I can scramble eggs, I take our daughter to the doctor, stay home from work when she’s sick, but it’s my wife who really plays double/quadruple duty.
And so I have the same question as Britt: when and how does one become a working dad? Furthermore, am I one, and are you married to one?
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