with Avi Spivack
Hi, I'm Avi, and I try to put the work and the dad together, with mild success. This is all about trying to give you a view from what it looks like on the dad-man's side of the world, and I hope you find my ruminations humorous because I try not to take myself too seriously.
Interesting post over at the “Well” blog on the NY Times cites a study that says us fathers are impacting our daughters’ career choices, and I’m wondering if that’s a good thing.
Of course we as parents influence our children, but this post made to stop to think: will my job/career, which essentially entails working endlessly in front of a computer (not unlike many others) push my daughter into a career in tech? (Not to mention that my wife does similar work - so have we already decided what she will do when she grows up? *the question that I asked last week*).
So it’s not that I’m unhappy with what I do, rather, it’s yet another thing that I have now become more fully aware of in terms of its impact on my daughter’s development. (Beyond the is-she-going-to-learn-how-to-read before I did and all of those other psychotic developmental questions that can drive parents insane.)
And when I look at the issue a little deeper, I see my career as something that may not be entirely “tangible.” All of my work ends up on the internet. I am not in a traditional role of a doctor, lawyer, teacher, writer, where there are specific criteria and, for some, a creative element; instead, if someone were to ask my daughter what I did for work she would likely answer: “He works on the computer.” Is that really what I want her to end up doing?
The ironic element in this discussion is the fact that I could not have ended up doing something more different than both of my parents (contractor turned social worker and early childhood educator), and while I realize that I am not a daughter, perhaps my influence will be that my daughter sees how she may not want to spend her life in front of a computer and become/do something completely non-technical.
If you asked her yesterday, she would have said she wanted to be a dentist.
I can’t wait for her to fit me for dentures.
What do you think about influencing our childrens’/daughters’ career choices?
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