with Avi Spivack
Hi, I'm Avi, and I try to put the work and the dad together, with mild success. This is all about trying to give you a view from what it looks like on the dad-man's side of the world, and I hope you find my ruminations humorous because I try not to take myself too seriously.
I have probably hit on this topic before (when I confessed that I didn’t know how to make pasta). But to piggyback on my last post about the ways in which men and women deal with unemployment, the interesting thing was that most of the comments focused on the fact that us men just don’t even SEE what needs to be DONE, whereas the domestic duties are somehow genetically programmed into the female brain - is this really true (or are we - I - just lazy)?
For example, I don’t walk into the kitchen and see the crumbs on the counter that need to be wiped or the dirty floor or the “mess” on the counter, but I know my wife does.
I say things like: “It looked clean to me.” (And it really did, but somehow it wasn’t.) So how are we to explain this phenomenon?
I mean, I will admit, growing up I was a bit of a slob, and the running joke with my wife is that when we met, she didn’t realize I had a big armchair in my apartment because IT WAS COVERED WITH CLOTHES.
Funny stuff, right?
I mean it is undisputed that men and women are wired differently - emotionally and otherwise - but do us guys just not see the dirt, do we not care about the dirt, or do we actually, possibly like the dirt (being closely related to primates as we are)?
I really struggle with this, not only because it causes friction at home, but because, honestly, many times I really, truly believe that a domestic task is done, that I am proud, that my wife will approve, and yet somehow I “missed a spot.” And I am not asking for points just because I’m “trying.” I am genuinely interested in this topic because it seems to be such a sore spot in so many households (”he doesn’t do anything”) - so why?
What’s the deal in your house and can we blame it all on bad genes?
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