Archive for September, 2009

Work It, Dad!

with Avi Spivack

Hi, I'm Avi, and I try to put the work and the dad together, with mild success. This is all about trying to give you a view from what it looks like on the dad-man's side of the world, and I hope you find my ruminations humorous because I try not to take myself too seriously.

The pressures of conformity

Categories: General

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I used to think - ignorantly - that the horrendous social pressures that plagued me through (some of) middle school, (most of) high school, and (part of) college would somehow ease up when I became a (pseudo) adult and entered the world of office-spaces, schools, and general parenthood.

But I think it might be worse.

I started a new job recently and I have found myself wearing button-down shirts because that’s what most of my male colleagues wear. (Though I do leave mine untucked, purposefully).

Our daughter is the only only-child in her Kindergarten class and I keep on wondering if we’re doing something wrong…

And then there’s just all kinds of crap around being the right/wrong/middling type of parent, and the car you drive, and whether mom works, and all of this suburban BS that I would much rather not even THINK about.

But here I am, 10:38 PM, EST, pondering our family’s suburban station in the community, and I can only guess that it might be getting worse…

How do you deal with the conformities of your community?

Cleaning up vomit and other fun activities

Categories: General

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Ah, all of those enjoyable and delightful tasks that no one ever really warned you about when telling you just how much more love would permeate our home once we brought our beautiful child into this beautiful world.

Granted, our daughter has brought forth an unending stream of love and silliness and joy and laughter and now seems completely prepared for teenagehood, as a kindergartner.

But I don’t recall the warnings about vomit cleanup (or any other excreted substances, for that matter).

I mean, folks were quick to point out that I would be tired all the time and feel sick a lot; true, true. But this vomit-cleanup thing, don’t recall it.

And I’m talking about that chunky, healthy, too-big-for-the-drain puke. The real stuff. I’m talking about needing to double-wash the clothes and the sheets and the stuffed animal and blankie she won’t sleep without (that has retained that vomit odor a full 48 hours after the fact). Please do excuse my slightly graphic writings, but I really wanted you to get some “local color” as they say in comparative literature courses.

So at what point do we - the parents - get the deserved appreciation or payback; ever?

Not that I want a ticker tape parade, but will we ever feel that the endless nights we stay awake, and the butt-wiping and cooking and cleaning and overall devotion to their well-being; is the sheer joy of parenthood just so darn immense that we do all of this because our little ones are just so precious that it’s *worth* it?

Yeah, it probably is.

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