with Avi Spivack
Hi, I'm Avi, and I try to put the work and the dad together, with mild success. This is all about trying to give you a view from what it looks like on the dad-man's side of the world, and I hope you find my ruminations humorous because I try not to take myself too seriously.
Not to stir up the pot here too much, but I have now heard one too many people tell me that I/we “can’t” have just one kid.
Really? Are you gonna give me another one to go with the one I already have?
I think not. I think we will be just fine with just one (even if many others might disagree).
Now I know this ain’t a new topic, but it caught the top of my mind as we spent the weekend with a small wedding party of friends and family - many siblings on display, and a few only children.
The tendency is always to ask which is “better” or who is “happier”?
I have been able to stop doing asking those questions, recognize (and celebrate) the differences. Though I never did think I would have an only child (mostly because I am not one - I have a younger brother), I am convinced you really just have to do what is right for you.
I have now witnessed siblings who are completely at odds and detract from one another, and others where it works.
I have been friends with many only children, some who have embraced, some who now have two children of their own (perhaps because they regretted their only-childhood).
But there is no answer, methinks…
What do YOU say?
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