Mir wrote recently about taking on too many projects and having to work nights and weekends to get them done. This after she resolved to spend more time with her new husband and get her working hours under control. And while I made no such public proclamation to my husband, I can relate. I’ve been working until very late at night and on weekends for months now and my husband has been amazingly patient. (The other night he made dinner - I know, I know, he MADE dinner!!! - and called for me upstairs where I was working in the office. I said that I was coming in just a minute and an hour later we were warming up the now-cold dinner in the microwave.)
I’ve been telling myself that this is a phase - launching a new company, moving to a new city - and things will settle down. But that’s a lie. What I do for a living requires a tremendous amount of work and I am committed to making it happen. I’ve worked hard for as long as I can remember and the only difference now is that I work late at night because I take time during the day to be with my daughter. I know I am lucky to have the opportunity to work on a flexible schedule, but it has led to little sleep and very little time doing anything but work at night and many hours on weekends. My husband and I try to watch our favorite show at least a few times a week and a movie with takeout on weekends, but it’s not rare for me to do this while holding my laptop on my lap. We recently went away on vacation and I realized how little time we’d been spending together without our daughter there (we are all glued to each other on weekends and I love that time, but it’s family time, not my time with my husband.)
We talk often here about juggling work and kids, but I think we should talk more about juggling work, kids and our relationships. I think it’s really easy to take them for granted and I also know that is a huge mistake.
I’d love to hear what you think about this topic. Do you carve out special time to spend with your partner or spouse? (And if you do, how the heck do you manage that!?!) Do you feel that your relationship is not a priority since having kids and juggling work?