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An email that melted my heart (or enough about bitchy women and mommmy wars)

Categories: Just For Fun, Your life


I’ve been having a tough few weeks, as this post probably indicated. Many of the comments you guys left there sent me right through my ceiling and into the sky of gratitude of being able to be part of this incredible community. If I could run and hug all of you, I would.

And then the other day I opened up my email and saw this:

Dear NK…

I have had such a strong vibe today to contact you…and when that happens, I always follow my gut.

If you have time in the next few weeks, I would love to drive down and finally meet you in person.

But more than that, Entrepreneur Superwoman, I’ve been worried about you and want to do something practical to lighten your load.

So, here’s what I propose! I drive to you, we yak for an hour or whatever you can spare, and on my way out, I hand you that night’s dinner and dessert. There are a few dishes I make that guests have really enjoyed and I will make whatever you prefer.

You seem so busy and stressed…the last thing you need to worry about is making a nutritious meal! I’m overdue in telling you how much I appreciate your giving me a forum for my writing …how could I possibly pay you back except to deliver a few minutes of TIME TO YOURSELF and freedom from the stove!

Before I tell you how this email melted my heart and reminded me about the incredible power of support and friendship among women, you should know this: I’ve never met the woman who wrote it to me. I was introduced to her by email a while back and extended an invitation for her to write on WIM. She did and we’ve exchanged a few emails here and there, but we’ve never actually met. I had no idea that she was even reading my blog and then I get this, the most kind, thoughtful email I’ve gotten in…. oh, a long time.

And my heart did melt. And suddenly I felt a literal jolt to remember how incredible women can be and how lucky I am to have met, either in person or virtually, the thousands of you who are members of the Work It, Mom! community. And I realized that I should be writing a lot more about moments like this than women’s behavior like this.

Because let me say this - women rock! I might sound a bit too much like Oprah here, but I don’t mind. Women rock, women support each other, women make incredible friends, and while the media might find mommy war stories a lot more interesting, the reality is quite different.

So go ahead, write a nice note to a tired friend or leave an encouraging comment on a fellow blogger’s post — maybe we can start our own version of the mom’s random acts of kindness.

(Oh, and instead of dinner I opted for pie:) and we’re meeting in a few weeks!)

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7 comments so far...

  • Truer words, sister….

    Despite those squeaky wheels that we so love to grease, women, this community we have built, all of it, are truly amazing. I have never been so proud to be a part of something as I am now, after I saw what I saw last week, to be a part of the blogging community. We hold each other up. It’s beautiful.

    (PS: We were totally talking about you at BlogHer. You were missed.)

    Mr Lady  |  July 25th, 2008 at 1:27 pm

  • Lump in throat - I’m so glad you’re hearing from supportive women, women who ‘get it.’

    Daisy  |  July 25th, 2008 at 4:41 pm

  • Nataly - that is wonderful…. It is true - there’s no better support than a woman who truly understands…. I could really get on my soapbox about the incredible love, strength and support of women, but I’ll leave that and simply say I’m very happy for you. :-)

    BlapherMJ  |  July 25th, 2008 at 8:52 pm

  • Loved this blog and reading the note. It is so easy to see tarnish and get negative that to highlight what is good helps lift us all up. Kudos to you. And kudos to your web friend for taking action on a good deed and showing us all how we can be supportive of each other again.

    Take care of yourself!

    Michele  |  July 25th, 2008 at 11:06 pm

  • They DO rock! I think the few who DON’T rock are just REALLY LOUD and REALLY MEMORABLE.

    Swistle  |  July 27th, 2008 at 3:00 pm

  • You go girl! Now if I can get something going…lol :), kidding…. I really believe in the power of networking and it is working in my favor.


    Gia  |  July 28th, 2008 at 10:07 am

  • woohoo! i am happy for 2 big reasons here
    1. You receive the goodness you are giving and RECOGNIZE IT! (sometimes we forget to see the good coming at us - even when it hits us over the head!
    2. It is so so so important to share the both sides, the good and the bad. and like Swistle said - far too many LOUD people get attention when the majority have nothing to do with them!

    yay for the good ones!! thank goodness there are lots of ‘em :)

    Kate  |  July 28th, 2008 at 11:05 am