There is an interesting article over at Babble about a new, apparently growing group (I have nothing to back up this claim, it is from the article) of well-educated, married women who are choosing to stay at home and NOT having kids. They pursue their interests, passions, creative outlets, or just focus on managing everything about their household life. According to one researcher mentioned in the article, these women are the new status symbol for their husbands because “their lifestyle alerts the rest of the world that the husband makes enough money for the both of them.”
I am always weary of taking groups of people and passing general judgment upon them — every one of us has a unique situation. But I found this too interesting to not mention here. First off, I don’t know any such women — do you? Maybe I am not high-class enough but all the married women I know who don’t have kids work. I do know one who took a year off from her banking job to write a book — but to do that, she and her husband used their combined savings. And I think writing is work, actually. These status symbol women described in the article are not women I’ve met.
Secondly, I have to admit that as I was reading the article my first feeling was that of envy: I wish that before we had our daughter I had the luxury to not bust my butt in the office for a while and instead, improve my horrible painting skills, write more books than just one, travel to Israel to stay with my grandmother and other family there for a while, and grow my collection of I-rock-these recipes. (I would certainly NOT stay around the house cleaning and cooking, and getting ready a cold beer for my husband after he came home from work.) Being the primary breadwinner, that was never an option, but if I could have it, would I take it? Maybe, and I’d hate for anyone to consider me a status symbol for doing it.
Do you know married women who don’t have kids and choose not to work, in the traditional sense of working? If you could have done it, before having kids, would you?