As I was typing at work earlier today I looked down at my nails and realized that I badly needed a manicure. I rarely go for professional manicures — I’m a cheapskate, and besides, they feel like a waste because the polish chips in a day - but I’ve had a few crazy weeks of working and being sick and I am too lazy to do it on my own. So I decided that it’s a must-do this weekend.
Except… I have weekend working mom guilt. Because I work a lot during the week and don’t get to see my daughter for too long during the day, on weekend I like to stay basically glued to her. I know this won’t be forever and she will soon definitely not like that, but for now, weekends are family time. And even though I realize that a few hours away from my kiddo for some “me” time might not be the worst thing in the world, I feel really guilty about taking time away from spending together on weekends. Maybe this sounds silly, but maybe I’m not the only one? (Boy, I am hoping one of you out there just nodded.)
One of the things I’ve been terrible about since I became a mom is taking time that’s just for me. I don’t mean this as some martyr admission — I actually think it’s really stupid. Because I don’t do it enough I am more stressed and tired than I probably would be and I’m sure my husband and daughter wouldn’t mind a less stressed and tired mom. But while I’ve figured out how to deal with my mommy guilt (for the most part), I’ve replaced it with an adult version of separation anxiety – if I am not working and my daughter is awake, I feel terrible about being anywhere else but with her.
Does anyone else feel this way? Are you familiar with working mom weekend guilt? Have you found a mental trick that helps you rationalize taking time for yourself on weekends?