My daughter asked to have a playdate with a girl from her class recently so I emailed her mom to see whether one of the next Sundays would work. She kindly replied that weekends are family time for them and asked if we could do the playdate during the week. Thing is, during the week our kiddo has activities on most days and weekends are when playdates work best for us, especially because my husband and I both work. (Our babysitter could bring her to a playdate after school one day but because she is only here three days a week she prefers that they do stuff together instead or she helps her with her homework.)
So this got me thinking about the weekend life juggle between family time and friend time. Starting with our Friday night sushi and movie night tradition, weekends are when my husband, kiddo and I have time to spend together. A lot of times we’re definitely guilty of trying to fit too much in, but the main ingredient is us hanging out together. Once in a while we succeed at leaving an afternoon open, and as unexciting as this sounds, one of my favorite times is when the three of us just hang out at home together, without rushing off to another activity, however fun it might be.
But I know my daughter likes to have playdates so I try to arrange them for her during the weekends. If scheduling stars align she has a playdate while I get some cooking done on Sunday afternoons, and then we’re all back for dinner together as a family. Lately I’ve also started to take her and a friend somewhere for a few hours — to see a movie or make necklaces together. This way she and I are together and she gets to have a friend there as well.
I know there is no perfect solution and I know moms who stay at home and those who work all face similar scheduling challenges. I’m curious how you guys do it in your family: Do you designate one day on the weekend as family day and don’t schedule any playdates or other activities? Or do you just fit things in around each other?
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