My Mother’s Day wishlist has only one thing on it

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And here it is:

I want to feel like an awesome mom.

For this Mother’s Day, my kiddo and husband are plotting something and I think they are planning to make me breakfast. I will love that, not the least because I do 99% of the cooking at home and I do gripe about how nice it would be to be served some food. We are also doing a dinner together with all the grandmas and it’s one of my favorite meals we have as a family — I love celebrating all the moms.

But what I really really want is to feel like I am a rockin mom and that’s something that I need to feel from the inside. My biggest struggle as a working mom is that I constantly feel like I’m not doing a great job: as a mom, at work, as a wife, friend, daughter. Last night stuff at work was blowing up and I needed to answer some emails while helping kiddo do homework and practice piano. I could see her looking over at me and I hated that I was on my phone, but at the time that was what I needed to do. But you can bet I didn’t go to bed feeling like an awesome mom. (Of course I know she will be OK and we will make up the time together and life is life and not perfect. But it doesn’t make it easier.)

When I talk to my working mom friends this comes up a lot, in fact, more then the guilt discussion. They feel torn in lots of directions and they don’t feel good about themselves. I am sure moms who don’t work have similar issues just with different circumstances. In fact, the other day one of my friends, who is a stay-at-home mom, told me that she feels like she should be doing a lot more with her son than she is, things like outings and creative projects. We all have high expectations of ourselves, it seems, and maybe that’s why it’s sometimes difficult to feel like we are rocking in.

So that’s my Mother’s Day wish for myself: To give myself a break and to appreciate that I love my kiddo and I do my best to be the most rockin mom I can.

Have you found a way to not be hard on yourself or are you in my camp? Share your thoughts in the comments and have an awesome Mother’s Day!

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3 comments so far...

  • I am also a working mom, and I experience issues on a daily basis in dealing with my managers because of the differences in our personalities and overall working styles. By the time my day is over, I am wound like a top. I hate to bring home stresses and frustrations related my job because in the grand scheme of things, it does not matter and it definitely should not put a damper on the limited time I have to spend with my husband and three kids. So, I try to manage everything as best I can….it is hard, and I am crabby sometimes, but I try to keep myself in check so that I can enjoy the time I am NOT at the office. My Mother’s Day gift was a new Kooba handbag because I figure if I have to put myself through so much daily aggravation, I need something pretty to carry around. Bright colors always make things look more positive, right???

    Kristen at Me and My Three  |  May 9th, 2012 at 6:49 pm

  • We’re all in that boat. Work from home, work outside the home, work part-time. I’ve done it all and it all brought it’s reasons for guilt. Want to know what stopped that guilt?

    Seeing my kids be amazing. Having all our friends say how amazing our kids are. Having teens that we, our friends and our family want to hang out with and schedule so without being asked. No matter how much or how little time I felt I spent with them, it was quality time.

    Ask me again this summer and the teens may have changed my tune lmbo

    Val  |  May 10th, 2012 at 2:35 am

  • I tell myself that daddies go to work because they have to, and they are not given a hard time.

    Why should mommies?

    Also my sons starts asking questions about what I had to do at the office, what I liked best and what annoyed me - just a we do when we are talking about his day at daycare.

    I just have to be careful not to make statements about specific people as he will repeat them to the person in question. Happened once “my mommy says you have a screw loose!”

    Hope you had a wonderful guilt-free Mother’s Day! :-)

    Tamara  |  May 14th, 2012 at 6:57 am