Earlier today we went on a picnic with some friends of ours. The sun was shining, it was finally warm like May warm should be, and we were sitting in a beautiful park with enough food, wine and conversation to keep us happy for hours. Our daughters are all similar in age which made for lots of fun giggling and running around, giving us some much needed time to catch up with our friends. It was awesome (and I’m proud to say that my phone stayed in my bag most of the time.)
When we got home my husband told me that this was the first time, in a very long time, that he saw me sitting down anywhere for more than a few minutes (long car rides excluded.) He told me that he looked over at me sitting on the grass next to my friend and it struck him that he almost never sees me sitting still.
You know what? He is absolutely right. If you exclude the times when I am working at my computer or sitting in the car, I can’t say I sit very much. Of course I sit down to eat but I wouldn’t count that as sitting still. I think what he meant is sitting still like you would if you were watching TV or reading or just chillaxing.
And I don’t do very much of that. My life is in constant motion, usually at fever speed, and the only time I really stop moving is when I go to sleep (and sadly not for very long). Besides the fact that this probably isn’t a good idea long-term, I also don’t want to be setting an example for my daughter that resting isn’t a good thing to do. The other day we were talking about wishes we would ask a genie to grant us and one of hers was “a machine that would do all the cooking, organizing and working so that mama can take a rest.” I am insanely touched that she would use her wish to give me more rest but I also want to make sure that she knows that while juggling work, family and a bunch of other stuff is challenging, that it’s OK to take a break from time to time and sit still.
Do you make time to chill out and be still?