Do you ever stop moving?

Categories: Balancing Act, Your life


Earlier today we went on a picnic with some friends of ours. The sun was shining, it was finally warm like May warm should be, and we were sitting in a beautiful park with enough food, wine and conversation to keep us happy for hours. Our daughters are all similar in age which made for lots of fun giggling and running around, giving us some much needed time to catch up with our friends. It was awesome (and I’m proud to say that my phone stayed in my bag most of the time.)

When we got home my husband told me that this was the first time, in a very long time, that he saw me sitting down anywhere for more than a few minutes (long car rides excluded.) He told me that he looked over at me sitting on the grass next to my friend and it struck him that he almost never sees me sitting still.

You know what? He is absolutely right. If you exclude the times when I am working at my computer or sitting in the car, I can’t say I sit very much. Of course I sit down to eat but I wouldn’t count that as sitting still. I think what he meant is sitting still like you would if you were watching TV or reading or just chillaxing.

And I don’t do very much of that. My life is in constant motion, usually at fever speed, and the only time I really stop moving is when I go to sleep (and sadly not for very long). Besides the fact that this probably isn’t a good idea long-term, I also don’t want to be setting an example for my daughter that resting isn’t a good thing to do. The other day we were talking about wishes we would ask a genie to grant us and one of hers was “a machine that would do all the cooking, organizing and working so that mama can take a rest.” I am insanely touched that she would use her wish to give me more rest but I also want to make sure that she knows that while juggling work, family and a bunch of other stuff is challenging, that it’s OK to take a break from time to time and sit still.

Do you make time to chill out and be still?

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5 comments so far...

  • Natalia, as I understand it, about what you write! I live in Russia. I am also the mother who works from home. In addition, I am raising three sons. Sometimes it is difficult. Sit absolutely no time!

    Natalya  |  June 2nd, 2012 at 9:40 am

  • Hi Nataly, great article !

    It seems like adults also can learn quite a bit from our children. Most adults have forgotten to play. We are all to busy, taking care of our jobs and doing daily duties. We dont “pull the plug” anymore or as often - as we should.

    As parents, we do need breaks from job and children and our better parts. It is very important to remeber in these stressful times to recharge your batteries, whether you do it by running, reading or gardening.


    Lars Schak  |  June 7th, 2012 at 2:48 pm

  • Nataly,

    I’m sad to say no I don’t sit still much. Even when I do “sit” it usually involves using my laptop. I rarely break for lunch at work either because I work in an area that is difficult to get around in and I hate wasting time and resources trying to fight my way through the crowds. So I have resigned myself to staying in the office; thus, I just keep working.

    As I realize this is a horrible habit I have been trying to take a daily 15 minute meditation break to just clear my mind. As it’s a relatively new effort I’m getting it in about once a week, but I’m working on it :)

    I liked your point though about setting a better example for my daughter. I will remember this.

    Thanks for the reminder!

    Tina  |  June 27th, 2012 at 11:53 am

  • You are so right!!
    I have this constant list of jobs in my head, potty training, washing, dishes, shopping, trip to the shops, etc!!
    Hard to just sit and enjoy the moment with my son and with myself!
    Thank you for so discussing this.
    How do we learn to relax and enjoy all the little things that make up our day??

    Liz  |  August 9th, 2012 at 5:12 am

  • When my feet hit the floor in the morning my first thoughts are, THE RACE IS ON! I rush to get ready for work before the kids get up, which is successful 65% of the time, I scarf down oatmeal and then get them ready and with the vehicle packed off we go. At this point in the day I feel like I’ve already ran a marathon and I am just dropping the kids off at the sitters and haven’t even made it to work. Once I get to work sometimes I’m lucky enough to sit there for a few minutes, until the first patient beckons and then it’s a rat race there as well. By the end of the work day I am rushing to pick the kids up and then it’s the race to make supper and eat before 9pm, which is bedtime. Once the kids are in bed I can breath for about 20 seconds then it’s preparing for the next day. Oh a day in the life…..but like all good mothers say, “wouldn’t change it for anything”, except maybe for a relaxing day at the spa or beach, lol

    Samantha  |  October 1st, 2012 at 8:53 pm