In the last few days I’ve been catching up with a few of my girlfriends who are either thinking about having kids or have just recently had a little one. All work and plan on continuing with their careers and so at some point our conversations turned to childcare. I have to admit that I was really surprised when all of them asked me a version of the same question:
Do you think if I get a nanny my kiddo will like her more than me?
We had a nanny for our daughter until she was three years old. Actually, we ended up having three nannies, each for about a year. We were pretty damn lucky, for the most part, because we had wonderful nannies who took great care of her and whom we treated as members of our family. Our last nanny in particular was so special that we literally considered not moving from New York City so that we could keep her. (We decided to move in the end, but it was a really tough separation - for our daughter as well as for us!) And the reason that my friends’ question surprised me so much is that I never thought about it myself.
Don’t get me wrong: Leaving my little three-month old daughter in the care of another person was excruciatingly hard.
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