I've been married for almost 19 years. My husband and I lived together for 3 years before we walked down the isle. In that time I've learned a thing or two about a happy marriage.
Yes, it does take two people to make a happy marriage.
Yes, money, sex and children will cause a strain on your marriage. As will 100 other things. You are two people coming together with different histories, family backgrounds, and so much more. So compromise is a word that if you don't know the definition, look it up.
Yes, there will be times when you will wonder why you married that person.
If you are not happy, do not think your spouse is going to make you happy.
And for the record housecleaning is.......are you ready for this? Housecleaning is the best foreplay. This is directed at men more than women, and I know some man is reading this, please pass it on. HOUSECLEANING IS THE BEST FOREPLAY. Nothing and I mean nothing makes me feel sexier than to come home and see that most if not all of the chores I have been dreading all day are done. The smell of lemon Pledge or Dawn dishsoap just puts me in a different kind of mood. If I come home and my husband is sitting around watching TV, I put on my sweats and get madder and madder as I go about doing what needs to be done. Then I don't want to touch, be touched or even think about making love. However, if I come home and he has done those chores and the house smells good, I can't wait until the kids go to bed. I will touch him seductively, kiss him, smile more and be a generally happy person all evening.
When people have "The talk" with their parents this should be the first thing they are told. If the way to a man's heart is through his stomach -- then the way to a wonderful sex life is to see a man pushing a sweeper.
Believe me, between children, work and other responsibilities it is hard to think about sex when a to-do list is running through my head 24/7.
I hope when I get home this evening, he has done something.