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What a present!!!! Little Christmas package! The way your Mom talks to you is normal. She's always going to be your Mom and have your best interests at heart. I don't even live with my Mom and she still talks down to me! You will always be her baby too! Even when you're 40 and she's 60 something... you're still her baby! You earn respect by showing it to others. Start doing things before she asks and see what happens... SUPRISE!!! Clean something and don't say anything about it and see if she notices... I used to do the dishes and scrub the counters spotless and even though she never thanked me for it... I know that it made her whole week. ( And kept it clean) Take the trash out before she gets a chance... the little things will make a HUGE difference! And trust me... you'll start to see a change in her way of speaking to you... when she sees that you're becoming more responsible and taking a responsibility for cleaning without being told or yelled at for it she'll start to warm up to the idea that you're coming into your own. My friend lost her Mom a while back and she told me that she wished she had done more for her over the years and had not moved out so soon... (16) She felt like she missed a lot of opportunities to get to know her better and build a strong relationship with her. It changed my outlook on a lot of things. Ask her what she liked to do when she was your age... be curious but not nosy... actually take interest in the things she's saying... maybe cook HER dinner before she gets home... simple and fun are the best ways to bond and to also help her relieve stress. Ask what you can do for her to help ease her stress-level... if she says nothing... demand pedicures (home pedi's are the best! Soak, massage, PAINT!) LOL... you'll find a way to live in harmony... food for thought... :)

Loren,

I'm going to let you in on a secret. I dislike my "mother-in-law" VERY MUCH. Legally, we're not married... but Jalaina is her grand-daughter too so I have to deal with that on a daily basis. I miss my Dad too... he's been in jail since I was a couple months old and I have never seen him in person or talked with him on the phone. Your Dad seems like a pretty important guy if he's over "there"... December is when my baby was born and it's my favorite month. (Okay, I LOVE CHRISTMAS TOO!) It will be the best Christmas present to have your Dad back! Having a Mom and a Dad growing up must have been fun and you have to think of how lucky you are to have one that loves you and wants to talk to and see you. We experience things because God has brought us TO them... and He will see that we get THROUGH them. Luckily, I have a very strong-willed Mother who raised me to be strong and stick to what I believe in and I hope that I can instill that in my daughter too. Your little boy is adorable from what I can see! I don't put my boo on facebook or anything... I'm gonna keep her in a little bubble for as long as she thinks it's normal... when she finds out that it's not... I'm screwed LOL :) just kidding... Yes, he is your baby and you ultimately make the decision as to whom he sees. You are the only one (besides Daddy) that can keep that little angel safe... Maybe on his 17th birthday he can get one (A TATTOO)... 21 for Jalaina though... Daddy's rules. :) Ask your Mom for parenting advice, come to her like an adult and you'll be treated like one. Maturity is not something that comes overnight... your Mom might know some stuff that you would've never thought to ask her... Let Triston be the bridge that you and your Mom needed to grow stronger and be appreciative of the job she did for you all of those 18 years... Without my Mom I'd be one crazy woman... I call her everyday just to tell her that I love her more and I know that it means so much to her... just those 4 little words... I LOVE YOU MORE! Tell her thanks for all of the comfort and tenderness and pure unconditional love that she's shown you and you might just see a change in how she treats you... food for thought....
Peace and Love Loren, Peace and Love ~Jesi