Don’t You Deserve a Woman Cave?
Don’t You Deserve a Woman Cave? 5 reasons “man caves” aren’t just for men
Especially for work-at-home moms, the daily grind can seem inescapable—you’re always on the clock, and there’s always more to do. For that reason, you should consider turning a home office or guest room into your own personal “woman cave”; a place to retreat, focus, and get your groove back before jumping back into the fray. Here are a few ways a woman cave can help you be a better mother and provider.
1. Patience is a limited resource
Locking yourself in the bathroom is one way to get a little privacy—but you’ll probably just end up thinking about the mess. Having a dedicated “you” space can make it a lot easier to get some breathing room when the kids are going crazy, the house is a mess, and work is piling up. Don’t think of it as a place to run away and hide—it’s a place to pull together and regroup, so you’ll be stronger for the challenges of the day.
2. It can be exactly the way you want it
Let’s face it: when you’ve got a full-time job and kids, your house probably won’t be all that it can be; but your woman cave is a place where you don’t have to worry about kid-proofing or trendiness or anything else. You can hang up old posters or spray it down with blacklight
paint—nothing is immature or gaudy or silly, because it’s your space
. Alternately, you can make it the pinnacle of tidiness and class (it’s a heck of a lot easier than trying to get the whole family on board). It’s a place to remember who you were in high school, or who you want to be today—and women who maintain that sense of self can move mountains.
3. Personal growth and fulfillment
A woman cave can be dedicated to whatever you’re into. Want to learn to cross-stitch, or swordfight, or speak Mandarin? The woman cave is a great place to make it happen. Big projects like the Great American Novel are a lot tougher with life crawling all over you, asking you what’s for dinner—so a woman cave can be a place to shut it all out for a moment and get things done. It can also be a great place to teach your kids what really matters to you, whether it be math, dancing
, or an appreciation for early-90s sitcoms.
4. It’s like a home-office, dialed up to 11
Some ladies devote their lairs entirely to recreation, but if you work from home, a woman cave can be a great place to hammer out a couple work projects as well. The fact that your environment is exactly the way you want it, and it’s off-limits to outsiders, can make you a more productive worker. Move in some office furniture
, paint the walls in a high-energy color, and keep a few diversions at arms-length for when you get bogged down.