Back in the days when women only tend to their homes, and were really good at homemaking, their happiness was directly proportional to their spouse's success and progress made in school by their kids. Now that women are devoted full time to career and homemaking, the anxiety keeps rising. More and more women are anxious about everything. A good example was this past week when my daughter was battling a stomach virus, which involved simultaneous diarrhea and vomiting. My daughter's sickness did not stop me from going to work because I only have two weeks of vacation and I was not ready to use it. The good news was that my only sister lives with me, and so she was able to fill in for me. On getting to work, I quickly immersed myself in meetings, conference calls, emails, and projects but inside of me, I wasn't happy. I was dreading any type of call from my sister. I knew my daughter's situation could get worse and I would have to go home if need be. I left work early to tend to my little lady, but I felt so guilty and 100% unhappy. I called my husband and cried.
The problem is not that I hate my job or my career. The problem is the clash between family and career. One would think that with the amount of money I make, the control I have over my financial, physical and social life, I would be happy. The real barrier to a career woman's happiness is:
The fact that nothing ever goes planned for an entire week and because I have to be at work and thus unavailable to deal with issues until I get home. This causes anxiety, stress and depression in some cases.
No, seriously. Most working mothers don't get enough sex. The best way to measure your happiness is by your relationships with people. And who do you have the deepest relationship with? Correct, your spouse. The more time you spend maximizing sex, bonding and getting quality time with the man, the more happy you become. Research shows that sex once a week with a regular, committed partner will increase your happiness. Maybe the true reason for my unhappiness is that my husband is away for months right now or maybe because my bloggy friend Paige, is having more sex than I am right now. Well, she drinks too much wine, and wine is directly proportional to sex for married couples :P