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Deluge: When it rains, it pours

Posted 31st January 2008 by pajamamama

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January is the cruelest month. At least in the Northeast. Trying to pull off a part-time legal position with two young kids is hard enough. Add snow and ice storms and related cancelled daycares and it rapidly becomes untenable.  Then add colds, flus, medical appointments, spouse absences and late nights for work, family obligations, priority of football events as the week's "date" for the last few months, the urge to throw the computer out the window because it is fantasy baseball drafting season again and it is my husband or the computer, nighttime potty training and related laundry, laundry, laundry, meal preps and cleanups, bum/face/nose wiping, -- a la Monty Python "NEED I SAY MORE!" I know there is nothing particularly special about my situation and that, in fact my lot is enviable in many ways. But this month has been particularly brutal and each time another of life's cherry bombs explodes I find myself wondering (i) whether my job is worth it (yes, when things aren't this bad), (ii) how to not internalize and try to control all of the &$##^&^*^ going on around me (not many 'just go with it' attorney personalities out there) and (iii) what I can bribe myself with other than the chocolate dibs bought for potty training purposes. Argh. My spouse just tells me to "relax" and goes back to his fantasy baseball (which he plays while "watching" the kids) but somehow this fails to soothe. I haven't felt this angsty since high school. ....And my husband just stepped by to say he needs this computer at 8 for another round of fantasy drafting. Fury.

 Someone say something helpful/kind/sympathatic. Please. (Although I won't of course get to read it until I get the computer back).

 

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  • i would also think maybe you should buy another computer as a business expense so you dont have to share! if i had to share my computer with my hubby not sure our marriage would survive LOL

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by Kate on 31st January 2008

  • I have to second what Nataly said. Something just for you sounds like just the ticket. And if your hubby insists on playing fantasy baseball while he should be watching the kiddos, maybe that something needs to be outside of the house...even if you just go sit at the library for a while, or walk up and down the aisles slooooowwly at the grocery store. A little something to take the pressure off might help. I hope things get better FAST! Keep us updated, and hang in there. We think you can! We think you can!

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by mamajama on 31st January 2008

  • This will be of no help to you, but I just want to say that I've been feeling very similar and cursing January to no end. (I've also been checking NYC weather -- from where we moved -- and reporting to my husband how much snow they are NOT getting and how daycare is NOT closed there and how absence of snow there definitely would have led to our daughter being sick much less often. Right.)

    This is our first year with our daughter in daycare -- vs full time nanny -- and it's been a tough winter with the endless sicknesses, days off, juggling taking care of her, and then once she is better, having a snow storm and her preschool being closed. I've been cranky A LOT.

    I am not a just go with it person, by any means -- so I can relate, but not advise:) One thing I have been trying to do is treat myself to small things to chill out -an extra pilates class, an extra breakfast out (negating all the effects of the class:), etc. You need something just for you:)

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by Nataly on 31st January 2008

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