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Forget the guilt at the first sign of it. That's two steps later than a man would. I don't even know if it enters their minds... WHY does it have to bother us so just because of our chromosomes? My hubz gets home sometimes HOURS before me and still I am picking up child, scrambling for dinner and other useless housework until I collapse in bed after I notice "he's not in his easy chair, he must be in bed, I quit."

Oh Diane...you bad, bad girl! How dare you not fix dinner for your huband after you promised (tisk, tisk, tisk).

The CWC (Community Wives Committe) is going to revoke your "June Cleaver" award and take away your "Pleasantville" trophies!

Please girl, as much as men disappoint us and turn around and tell us to "get over it." He better get over it. Shoot did you see the overflow of comments left here about what a disapppointing Mother's Day most women had this year? And, men had more than enough time to prepare...please. Obviously we ALL have to deal with a little guilt and disappointment in life. And, mother's usually get the brunt of the disappointment.

So, go on and call it a day. Tell him, oh, well honey I got caught up with the baby or something and move on!

The relationship between my 70+ year old mom & her long-time boyfriend is really on shaky ground. What's funny is she used the dinner issue as the main example of why she's close to calling it quits. My mom, who was a single working parent to me and was totally not the Mrs. Cleaver type (and BF should know this), said that BF gets annoyed when she doesn't cook dinner for him when he wants. (He's got some maturity and social skills shortcomings in a big way.) I realize your husband is light years' more mature than my mom's BF, but I just thought it was funny (in a sad way) that the societal expectation of women doing the cooking came up in conversation with my mom and then with you. And another funny thing is, today is my b-day, and part of my husband's efforts to honor my day is to suggest we order pizza in part b/c I love 'za and in part b/c it would "give me the night off" from cooking. Funny how prevalent that expecation is! -Paula.

Oh, I've seen that book, BrendaG. Haven't read it though. Good point - that's exactly what I'm trying to get at. :) I used to be such a perfectionist and I think that, on reflection, perfectionism in women is often not about getting ahead (as with men) but about pleasing people. Now I try to just shrug stuff off and move on. More like a man's way to doing things - like MortonPixie says. Tee hee!

I agree with the difference between men and wome in that area. Guilt is something that we have a ton of - because we think of how our action effected 12 different situations, while men just see the one instance. I wish, wish, wish my brain operated like a mans more often!