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Posted 24th September 2007 by Marcia, tagged birthday

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 Yesterday was my daughter's first birthday party. We invited all the family out because that's what all the other first birthdays in the family included. Saturday night, my mom's dog snipped at one of the kids because for one, she never saw the kid, and another, the kid kept getting in her face with his. There was a calling for the death of my mom's dog who has been a large part of our family for over 6 years. She didn't hurt the kid and the kid was warned several times that you can't get in the face of a strange dog, no matter who's it is.  Anyways, the tension was thick. I was torn between my family and my hubby's.

 Sunday just an hour before the party was supposed to begin, I was in tears trying to prevent anything from happening and I definately did NOT want company. The party ended up being a segregated kind of thing where his family was in one room and mine were outside with all the kids. Instead of everyone being together for the 'happy' occasion, they were more worried about arguing about the dog. I was so upset. I hardly got any pictures of anything. I sped through the presents, no birthday song, no candle even. I hurried to get her cake so she could mush it up and play with it so everyone could return to their respective sides of the house. It was just so selfish to me that the day ended up having such negative air. This was MY daughter's FIRST birthday party. It was ruined. It's irreplaceable. I'm thinking to have her a piece of cake with her candle tonight. Today is her birthday. I need to do something to get some nice pictures and change the feeling toward the party.





4 comments so far...

  • That sucks but the upside is it is OVER and you can have a private little celebration now with nothing but smiles and singing and pictures of messy faces. Enjoy it and know that in the future you'll be better prepared to handle these family situations that may arise. Happy Birthday to your daughter!!!

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by Mandy Nelson - Dandysound on 24th September 2007

  • Thanks for the comments. I am going to do the cake thing for after dinner tonight. These types of things are why I'm glad we're 3 hours away from our families. It's a shame because our families get along and even my father-in-law and his parents went out to say bye to my side of the family before they left. They had no part in the drama so they weren't going to say who's right or wrong. I just hated being thrown in the center.

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by Marcia on 24th September 2007

  • Family can be such a pain in the kazoofus sometimes. I think I would have pulled key adults at the party to the side, the ones that I felt were possibly instigating the separation and told them politely but firmly that this is a party for my child. I would have also told them that their behavior was making me uncomfortable and if they couldn't mingle with all guests politely that it was necessary for them to leave quietly and quickly so as to not RUIN the event for everyone.

    Sorry, I have little to no tolerance for family politics. Your family lives under your roof and everyone else is extra at this point. You need to caretake those under your roof first and foremost in my opinion. I would have MUCH rather had a smaller gathering with adults that can play nice than put up with that!!!!

    EEP! I'm all fired up! Sorry! Hope you did something extra special with your daughter!

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by KathyHowe on 24th September 2007

  • Oh, that really sucks. I'm sorry. I think you should definitely do a candle and cake with her tonight, and sing the birthday song, and take lots of photos.

    Flag as inappropriate Posted by Nataly on 24th September 2007

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