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My daughter is 15. She had her first relationship this spring and summer. I was very odd. When I was 15 I had already had my heart broken very badly. My friends and I all had boyfriends and we would have make-out parties and generally spend a lot of time making out with these guys. While I didn't have sex until I was at university, by 15 I was pretty experience in making out. Well. We live in Turkey. Young people just do not date. They don't talk on the phone (metered service at expensive rates). My daughter, a very intelligent young person on the cusp of gorgeous and nerdy, was singled out by one of the "very popular" boys. Her friends considered this a great coup and also their invitation into the world of cool...well, they went on a date, to a movie. She said he talked a lot, and wasn't particularly intelligent, though nice. They only saw each other at school. A photo of them with their arms around each other popped up on Facebook, (causing some concern from her older male cousins), but looking at it, it seemed awkward and sport-like, and he seemed as dorky as anything-- but I didn't mention anything...but I did show it to her father, secretly. In June school ended and he went off to America for the summer. The night before he left he came by and gave her a birthday present (some chocolates and a shirt form Hollister), but she met him out in the entry to our house and would not invite him in. So the summer passed and no word from him. This seemed weird to me, what with the Internet and all. She really did not want to talk about it, but as the summer passed, I made some comments about his lack of initiative. A day before school she dumped him. Her friends were shocked. She was so right to do that, timiing and all. She is pretty good about conversation-- but then I am sly and manipulative and can get most people to tell me what I want to know...hee hee...(evil laugh)...Anyway, being a mom in Turkey on this subject is GREAT!

The Jerk as a rite of passage? Too true. If this is her first Jerk, and she learns enough that he's her only Jerk, she'll be doing better than her mother. I married mine! :-P

[grin] It's a truism: the bigger the child, the bigger the worries. Just as well we start off with the small stuff before we have to deal with stuff like this, huh? Thanks for the words of support. I do think Rebekah will make a wise decision, but meantime, mom is chewing her nails!!