My Non-Traditional Family
Hello. I am not like the other Moms at my children's school. Oh, yeah. Some are divorced like me, that's true. I am definitely not one of those "happily married" Suzie homemakers, either. My divorce from my husband of 14 years was just made final a couple of weeks ago. He left me because he is now gay.
We were high school sweethearts. We went to a very small private Baptist school in California. He is the only man I have ever dated and had sex with. I thought we would be together forever. We never fought and we always had a good time together. I thought he was the perfect match for me.
I really didn't see it coming. Things became different in our marrage during our 12th year together, but I thought he was dealing with the stress that came from becoming a new partner at his law firm. Finally, he told me about always having gay thoughts and then actaully having gay realtionships. We tried making it work for about a year, but then he fell in love with a guy and he became someone totally different.
I am a full-time grad student. I am working on my doctorate in clinical psychology and an MBA. I have 2 kids ages 10 and 7. I have the best girl and the best goy in the world!! At times, I feel so guilty about how my marriage worked out and what this will mean to my them. They still don;t know why their Dad and I divorced (they have never asked) because they are so yound. I don;t belive in lying to kids, so when the time is right, I plan on teling them the truth. I hope I just know when will be the correct time.
If anyone has had a similar experince, please contact me. I would love to hear from you. It is very important to me to go through this new phase in a very dignified manner.