I'm a single mother of 2 boys (7 and 16). I've been involved in a relationship for the past 3 1/2 to 4 years. The person I'm seeing is old-fashioned, respectful, etc. He and I were dating for over a year before I finally introduced him to my children. He's come by to visit several times while my kids were there. He never spent the night and we've always stayed in the common areas when he'd visit. A couple of times we did hang out in the bedroom but the door was open, we were not sitting close to each other, we were not affectionate in front of the kids and we were watching tv.
He's the only person I've dated since my divorce. The reason I'm writing this blog is because I'm confused. I want my significant other to spend the night. Of course, he will not because he doesn't think it's right. My thought is that we've been dating for a long time, my kids know who he is, and I'm not seeing anyone else....so why not? Am I not seeing something here? I never ignore my kids to be with him...he wouldn't even let that happen. I always think about them. So, is it wrong for me want him to spend the night?
I know people that have kids, have been in a relationship less time than I've been or several relationships, and have their friend spend the night several times a week.