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confussed! dating, kids, s_ _ what do I do to make it all work?

As a single parent and new to dating. I am finding new challenges with balance and guilt. I feel like I am a bad mom when I go on dates and leave my kids home. They are almost 18,16,14,10 but I somehow feel like I should be home with them when I am on a date.

When shoild I allow another man to meet my kids? What if the relationship doesn't work? Is it ok for your kids to see a failed relationship you have again after your divorce? Does it damage them further on their outlook of love and trust?

HELP!!!! HOW DO YOU MAKE IT WORK????? HOW DO YOU BALANCE? if your sexually active and you go away to do that is it ok to spend the night with your boyfriend and come home in the morning?

I love my kids and take very good care of them but I have needs also.

3 comments so far...

I think remembering that your children are watching is a good idea.

Flag as inappropriate Posted by Uhura on 5th May 2009
I agree with Eileen B here. Being a kid of divorce where my mother dated more men than I can count definately screwed me up until much later (adult). I say, just get to know them fully and get to know yourself as well. Don't just go for the fling, go for the relationship. I say also that you should find a sitter for your smaller kids (at least the 10 yr old) and talk to them about what is going on. Hang in there, you'll get it.

Flag as inappropriate Posted by Giazz on 4th May 2009
It's up to you to set a good example for your children. Yes date...no not every day of the week. Go slow when you date..if you find someone you really like & they like you -get to know they yourself (good) before you ever decide to let them meet your children. And you children should never know...Mom did not come home all night because she was with her boyfriend having _ _ _. So never stay overnight...let your children get comfortable with your dating. Date...just don't rush...better for you and them.

Flag as inappropriate Posted by eileen b on 4th May 2009