Working moms vs. stay-at-home moms: can't we all help each other?
So. Before I became a mother, I liked to think of all moms, regardless of whether or not they worked outside the home, as members of one big community. I fantasized that once I had children, I could support other moms, and they could support me. I find this is not the case. When I gave birth to my daughter last year, I had the opportunity to stay home with her for four months. During that time I became friends with full-time stay-at-home moms. We would meet to hang out and to discuss our children and to share mom tips. We talked about where to get the best baby gear for less, and from time to time we would even babysit each other's children. The climate quickly changed when I had to return to work full-time after four months had passed. All of a sudden I was no longer included in the mom activities in my neighborhood, even if they were on a weekend or in the evenings when I and my children could attend. The other moms texted each other all day and talked to each other on Facebook all day. They told me that in order to be "in", I needed to do the same things. Naturally I can't text and get on Facebook all day from work. And I know my former mom friends are busy with their kids all day, so I don't know where they find the time to do the social networking that is obviously so important, at least in this neighborhood.
My point is this. I think secretly, we all judge each other's choices. Working moms judge SAHMs and vice versa. Personally, I wish with all my heart that I could stay home with my kids, but financially, this just isn't possible. This doesn't mean I love my children any less, and it doesn't mean I don't crave friendship with other women. And moms especially. We all need to help each other out. After all, it does take a village to raise a child. I'd love to hear your thoughts on this topic!