How to quit letting perfectionism hold you back
Create a definite plan for carrying out your desire and begin at once, whether you are ready or not, to put this plan into action. Napoleon Hill
The quote above is the antidote to the plague of perfectionism that keeps so many of us in a place of continual dissatisfaction and failure to reach our goals. We are waiting until we are ready, until the moment is right, until everything is in place, until Situation A is resolved and Situation B is over and Situation C is no longer demanding our time.
Conditions are never just right. People who delay action until all factors are favourable do nothing. William Feather
Waiting, waiting, waiting. Waiting until we feel ready. Waiting for energy. Waiting for motivation. Waiting for certain conditions. We call it prudence, or thoughtfulness, or planning, or timing.
Be miserable. Or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it's always your choice.
The pull of perfectionism is the pull to stay still.
Motivation lies in taking action: one step leads to another. Progress creates more progress. You must learn to take action even when you don't feel like it. You create the energy you need by acting as if you have it before you feel it.
Faith follows facts, and feelings follow faith. Too often we get that process all in reverse. We wait for the feelings; then we start to believe; then we assume that, since we feel it, and believe it, it must be true after all. But what if you stop "feeling it"? Suddenly your faith is shaky because the foundation - those ever-changing feelings - is shaky. Feelings change. Faith crumbles. You are back at the beginning. It must not be true after all. "I guess I wasn't supposed to start that business." "I guess I'm not really a writer." "I guess it just wasn't meant to be."
Get your facts first.
Are you, or aren't you? Do you want it, or don't you? Is it worth it, or isn't it? Can you do it, or not? Is it a real desire? Have you made it a real goal, whatever it is? Whether it is a career change, a lifestyle change, a health issue, a new habit to form or an old habit to break, a relationship to evaluate, or a personal goal to achieve, you must take the time to find out
what is true. Weigh the pros and cons. Discuss the matter with wise people you trust. Read about the subject. Pray about it. Determine what the goal is and how you best to get there; determine that you should and will get there.