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 I hate myself because very tiny words from my mother-in-law drive me crazy. She just said, " Close the door of your living room when you make dinner, because the smell comes our space."

I hate her because first, she thinks my home is hers in spite of her living in another place. In fact, they purchased the land against our will. That's why I gave up my job. Second, the style of our house is her taste, a traditional old big Japanese house I've hardly watch ones these days. I like a stylish Western style even if the house is small. They advised a lot and paid a lot for our house and they designed their room. It became a incomplete two-families house, the same gate and a separate bathroom and kitchen. I wouldn't have needed any advice and money.

The solution of my irritation is first, I smile at her and receive any advice but I will ignore all of them never follow her and act against her in silence. The more we contact, the worse my feeling gets due to the difference of thinking and our generation gap. So I will protect myself to make an appropriate distance like a neighborhood. I will ask for her a lot and just ignore her. Second, I will think her words not only my side but also from her side.