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shameless bribery?

Does anyone else fight the urge to overcompensate with "stuff"? I am about to have a really busy day (grant deadlines coming up) and am fighting the voice in my head saying "so get her a new _____" There have been a couple moments when I do give in, especailly when its just the two of us on the road together and, knowing that I will be occupied, I find her a new amusement to while away the time with. I'm trying to make the moments when I need to work longer hours at home a more practical "part-of the-day-sometimes" event... but I still feel awful when she needs/wants me and I am (figuratively) peeling her off my leg to try to finish something up. I think of it as rewarding her sometimes for being incredibly patient beyond her three years... but it often feels like an attempt to make ME feel better about not having/making the time... I try not to do very much TV so that removes some time options...anyone have good strategies? similar urges?