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Tip #1 for Improving your Marriage

Many times I find myself wondering... Why do other women seem to love their husbands more than I love mine?

I read blogs on a daily basis and many mommy bloggers out there are going on and on about how wonderful their husbands are and how much they love them. And it makes me question our relationship.

I love my husband. And I know that he loves me. So how can we be more like that?

I've come up with a few theories that I have been putting to the test. Some of them have been working for me and I want to share them with you in hopes that they might help others that feel the same way.

Today, I am sharing with you Tip #1: Obsess about the thing you DO like.

When my husband does something that upsets me or pisses me off, I obsess about it for days... until he does something else that upsets me and then I move on to that. I complain about it to my mother and my friends (bloggy friends included) and turn into the twin of Kathleen Turner's character from The War of the Roses (I love that movie by the way).

But when my husband does something that makes me happy, I thank him, I might mention it to my friends but that's it.

What we need to do is reverse the situation!

When your husband does something that makes you angry, I understand that you need to vent. I plot my revenge day and night for days at a time. But is that really making me feel better? NO!

So, next time your husband does something that pushes your buttons here is what you should do:

Write it down or talk to a friend and then PUT IT AWAY! Yes, I said it! And I know it's hard but PUT IT AWAY! Don't read it again, don't discuss it over and over, just put it away.

The next time your husband does something good, I want you to OBSESS about for days!!! My husband took me out to dinner on Friday (his idea!) and I have not shut up about it ever since. It may sound ridiculous but every time you think or speak about it, those feelings of satisfaction and happiness will return just like those feelings of anger and frustration return every time you think about whatever it was he did to upset you.

It is much easier to dwell on the negative but I promise that your efforts will not go unrewarded. And after a while, obsessing about the good things will become second nature to you. Look at all those women who can't stop raving about their husbands! Nobody is perfect but these women choose to OBSESS on the good not the bad.