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We got a call last night from my husband's brother. A friend of theirs killed his wife and then himself while their two year old child was locked in her room. Not only was this a friend of theirs, the reason this man had become their friend was because he was an exboyfriend of their sister's. An exboyfriend who she lived with for 5 years and had bought a house with at one point. They had split up beause she wanted to get married legitimately and have children and he did not. My first sentence (as was my brother-in-laws) was "This could have been Mary." My husband and his sister claim that they don't think this would have happened with her as he never showed any disposition towards violence with her, to which I pointed out that I doubt that his curent wife thought he would do this to her. I mean, after all, weren't we all shocked? My husband was in complete disbelief trying to find an answer as to why he would do such a thing. I had only met the guy a couple of times and my first impression was that he suffered from depression, which of course my husband never noticed. My husband will also admit that he and his brother did not like the guy at all at first but he grew on them in the 5 years. After the break up, they advised their sister against even trying to reconcile because although they liked him as a friend, they thought he was a jackass for their sister. The guy had ended up getting some other girl pregnant, married her, and two years later killed her. It's always a horrible thing but its even more horrible when you know the person and had no idea that they were so mentally unstable. The part that made us both cry is that we have a 2 year old at home and cannot imagine what that poor child will go through from this point on. The two people that this child was accustomed to seeing every day are gone. The child will have to live with the burden that her father shot her mother and then himself. No child should ever have to bear that burden. Neither one of us can understand how any person could be so selfish and self-absorbed to needlessly orphan their own child. A terrible, shocking tragedy for sure.