I understand where you are coming from.
I work as a Love Coach and authored two books for singles, How to Meet a Mensch in NY and How to Marry a Mensch. You might want to check out my website for details, www.LoveCoach.com,
and perhaps some of the advice there might resonate with you. I am also available for private consultations.
One of the things I'm a fan of is doing volunteer work for a cause you embrace and/or attending fundraiser events. If you want to meet a mensch (decent person), that is one way to go.....to do good and socialize at the same time.
author, HOW TO MARRY A MENSCH