Comfort nursing. This is the beautiful thing about breastfeeding. Babies need so much more than simple nutrition. Can you imagine, coming into the world with no language skills-- I settled in Turkey when I was 24 and did not speak the language. however, I knew English and French and I knew 'how to learn a language'-- still, after 20 years and near-fluency, I have days when I feel like I can't understand anything and can't make myself understood, and I just want to cry. Imagine having no language at all...Fortunately I have the breast of international satellite TV
When she was 23 months old and I decided it was time to wean her, first I stopped night time feedings-- but my husband took over and snuggled with her until she was able to sleep through the night. To me there were clearly two elements: the milk and the cuddling. She was fine with that.
Soon after that, I am not sure when exactly, we made bed time reading an institution. I would read one night in English and my husband would read one night in Turkish. This became a cherished tradition and we continued it until she was twelve or so. I can think of nothing so luxurious as being read to sleep.The breastfeeding and the reading are linked -- it was all about slowing down and savoring the moment.