My (future) husband has two kids a girl (11) and a boy (15). I brought three children two girls (13 & 10) and one boy ( 9)- The oldest is only half time (M-W and every other weekend. ) However, the rest are with us full time. We have no kid weekends every other weekend.
At first it was very hard. No one got along. Kids against kids, kids against parents. We just kept trying to make it work. They knew we loved each other. And we knew they were just hurt from former relationships failing. Everyday got a little easier.
It took a while for all of the kids to think of us as a family.
Now, We have weekly family time. At least once a week we have some activity that every family member must participate in. One week it was a talent show. You should have seen some of thier preformances. Amazing.
We have had game night, bake party, movie night, last week we had letter to Santa night. Even the teenagers WANT to participate. Crazy huh?