Catching up on my reading here at WIM, this article
caught my eye. Have y'all read it yet? What do you think?
When my ex and I divorced, our son was 17, so custody wasn't a factor for long, and we were cooperative about it. My (current) husband and his ex have a shared-custody arrangement (unequal, but shared). It works well, and they've both been pretty good about keeping it focused on their kids' welfare, regardless of how they get along (or don't). And if you can be consistent about that, I agree it's probably a very good arrangement.
But there are times and situations when parents can't
manage their own relationship well enough to make it work. And there are situations where it's probably best for the kids to limit one parent's time with them - and for that reason I don't think mandating shared parenting is a good idea.
I work for a social-services agency in the child-welfare area, and the push from the county is for "family reunification." I don't disagree that intact families are a desirable thing, but I do think dysfunctional, unhealthy families aren't
, and that a family situation shouldn't be forced. It's not a perfect analogy, but I think shared parenting isn't something that should be forced either.
But that's just my opinion...I'm curious about yours.