Hmm. Good questions. I want my kids to have unlimited options and a true sense of themselves and what they want to do.
My 10 year old is in both gifted and remedial programs, so I really have to emphasize to him that he IS smart and CAN do what he wants in life. He has good math & science ability and his dad’s superior mechanical ability, and a lot of creativity. He is also a comedian and an outdoors-lover. . .I would not be surprised if he wanted to be an actor or a ski bum for a while. Personally, I would not care if he deferred college a year or two to try those things. However, he will be off the payroll if that’s his choice!!! (I’m very set on that). The one exception, IF he turned out to have enough athletic talent to pursue a career as maybe a pro motocross rider, we would probably help him out. I don't see a problem with letting him think he can do that. If he's determined and practices enough, he could. Somebody can do it, why not my kids? (As a kid, and even now, I always thought the really cool careers were for "other people". I want my kids to dream a little!)
I honestly don't want to push him in one particular direction. My only hope is that he breaks the mold and does something awesome. No pressure!
Now, as for my 3 year old. . .I can't even imagine. He's pretty smart, but ornery as all get out. As long as he doesn't go to jail or blow up my house, I'll be happy!