Do you get enough time off from parenting?Subscribe
Does your SIG give you time to yourself? We have something of an agreement that we kind of "spot" for each other. I'll get a night out to spend with girlfriends. He likes to have a day of to stare at the wall. We do our best to divide the work, but sometimes, because of the nature of our schedule, I feel shafted.Flag as inappropriate Posted by on 1st March 2008
My hubby doesn't offer it.. I have to ask for it, and he's pretty good about saying yes. Since I started my business he's been great about taking care of our little one at night so I can do some networking.
I don't feel as shafted as I did when our daughter was an infant. I literally couldn't even take a shower without him bringing her in there.. or to the store because he'd call every 5 minutes.
Yes, Suzanne. Me too. It's easier now our DD is older. But, no, I don't get enough time to do my own thing. My SIG gets out a lot in the evenings, but he'll say it's often work-related, so it's not really the same. But I'm like: you're still out of the house! I think he'd be fine with it if I was more determined about having a "get out alone" plan, which I never have time to come up with...
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oooh - me too.
hubby comes home after 9pm.
all bed, bath - is done by then
and if i wanted time off i am too exhausted to take it.
i get 1 day a week not to come home, and i choose to work late, since i can't find another mum who can get a night off too.
what do you do to get some time off and come home. if i come home... and he's there... i am still doing everything.
My husband is great at pitching in and helping, but we both tend to not take enough time for ourselves. it's hard when we get home btw 6-630, eat dinner, play a little, then bedtime is at 7:45. If I go workout, I've missed out on interacting with my son for the day. That's the hard part. My husband is the same way, we're both a little nervous about this parenting thing, so we tend to overdo it at times.
Even still, I realize I need some time for myself. I try not to burden my hubby with this, because he needs time for himself as much as I do. so, when I'm feeling like I haven't had "ME-time" I do one of a few things:
1. Schedule a haircut (my stylist usually gives me a mini-facial that's a nice 5 minute pampering...)
2. Read a magazine instead of doing dishes. Sure, there is a good chance I'll still have to do them eventually, but who cares.
3. Schedule a sitter. One of the luxuries of being a working mom is that there is a little more $$ to go around, right? I will say, after writing this, I realize I need to do this more often... hmmm, where is her number again?
I used to say I never got me time because we are so involoved in so many things BUT technically what IS 'me' time - I count it as anything I enjoy or maybe even choose to do alone. Sometimes that means forgetting about the laundry, dishes and everything else and taking a haldf hour to be silly w/ my son; sometimes it means me going to a club meeting of an organization I am part of or grocery shopping all by myslef. My cold winter nights me time was once a week I used to watch 1 hour of TV - Sex in the City, my husband had a meeting that night and would stay an extra 30 minutes late becuase he hates the show, even if I was folding laundry during it, it was ME time becuase kids was in bed, hubby was out and I could watch the show in peace, uninterrupted-heaven!
I just discovered a new ME TIME - a massage - event though my son generally goes with me and hangs out in the lounge - it is 30 minutes of 'all about me' - I actually see a massage therapist as recommended by my chiropractor - what a great Doc HE is!
I have learned a big part of life is perspective - I HATE cleaning, but eventually it gets to a point even I can't stand it so I turn on some big band jazz, crank it up and dance my way through it - the result my son now loves jazz and he and I go to concerts & theatre, something my hubby has no interest in.
So just keep the whole lemons - lemonade thing in mind!
I only get time for me at 11...like now...when everyone is asleep...between my parents who I love, my kids who I adore, my job which is great, my husband who is wonderful, my three dogs that are my sweeties...I collapse into bed and get a little online time to connect with friends -- and make new ones even though I am speeding through life...I know I need to slow down and I do once in a while...I take a bath...I get acupuncture...I get a massage...but that's about it...and thats only every once in a while...