My 19 year old son was diagnosed recently with BiPolar Disorder. I have fervently read about it, engaged him and my partner in therapy, had him on medication, which he went on and off several times. There are many terrible things that have happened during this time leading up to and during that would take up volumes, so I will try to be brief and ask a few very important questions:
1. He hates his life and talks of how although he will not commit suicide, that he really doesn't feel that he will ever be happy and can never feel Love or have a family, etc. How do I respond to this?
2. He listens to these headbanger/hard punk music that is filled with "hate" messages and brutal sounds of violence, etc. What should I do about this? He is of age and I cannot take this away.
3. When he goes out, I feel that he may never come home alive as he has done and had some close brushes with death. How can I communicate to him that he can hurt himself and that it may be irreversible, when he really doesn't care about anything?
4. He has some very bad friends that drink and drug, but most of them go home at night and are now heading to college. He oftentimes does not come home until the next morning and then has been found sleeping in the trunk of his care and at one time he was beat up found passed out on the rainy street by a stranger and brought home. Scary stuff and horribly painful. How can I get him to just come home at a decent hour or call and tell me he is ok?
5. The last time he told us about hating life and how he doesn't care if he lives or dies, we took him to a local hospital, as recommended by the therapist, He agreed to being admitted, and while the psychiatrist agreed he should be admitted, and then told us to go in the waiting room, he then bolted our into the night w/o coat or anything. We searched the grounds for hours and then went home to search the home area and found him later on in the trunk of his car.
can someone give me good advice. I won't give up on him, nor mistreat him, but I am going to lose it myself if I don't see any improvement soon.