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new member struggling with leaving my daughter

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  I am a professional full time working mom who is struggling with a lot of pain over leaving our daughter in someone else's care. Our daughter has been home with a nanny until now but just started daycare yesterday. I felt slightly better when she was at home being cared for but either way I do not like that I have to work and leave her. I want to be the one to raise her full time and enjoy all the wonderful things she does all day. I have been working for some time now and thought that this would get easier but it hasn't. I am finding this excruciating.
  
  I know that some women do not feel this way in leaving their children, but for those of you who find it difficult to leave your child every day, how are you doing it? I am trying to make peace with this and it just isn't happening. My saving grace has been that I sometimes have some flexibility with my job to take some time off to spend with my daugther so I take advantage of that when I can. But that also typically only makes me wish that I had more time with her.
  
  I am in desperate need of some advice from other working moms who have dealt with similar struggles.
  
  Thanks in advance for any responses.

  Flag as inappropriate Posted by busymomwife7 on 2nd July 2009
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  I am struggling with this too busymomwife7. I have nothing to offer as for advice except, you can do what I've been doing. Which is start researching your stay-at-home but still bring in an income options. I, myself, have been too chicken to take the plunge and either start my own business or try to do the other work at home options. Nothing is guaranteed like the income that I have now and that's what has me worried. If you'd like to talk or vent, Im going through this every day over my son too. Message me if you need to.

  Flag as inappropriate Posted by daisygirl48161 on 23rd July 2009
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  Lean on other working moms! We have all been there and your feelings are normal. Even though your daughter's care giver won't do everything exactly the way you would, your daughter will learn things in day care that she won't learn at home.
  
  Follow your heart.........

  Flag as inappropriate Posted by Lucky Mama on 30th July 2009