What I also find challenging is having to explain myself to people, especially other parents, but also some of my friends. I truly want to work and feel that people don’t want to hear that, or they may think less of me as a parent because I choose to work. Sometimes there is this underlying assumption that I am choosing work over my son, which could not be further from the truth. I work because I want to work. One day I may wake up and feel differently; I might decide that my career path at that point is complete and I am ready to try a different lifestyle. But right now, I choose to work because I am happy doing it and I think it is important for my son to have a happy mom.
I resent comments such as "there is no one like a mother when it comes to raising a child.” I don’t disagree with that, but I am still my son’s mother even if we have a nanny or other professional help with raising our child. I think the more appropriate comment is "it takes a village when it comes to raising a child" because I think my son is the child that he is mainly because of me and my husband, but also because of our nanny, our family, friends, and his teachers. He is happy because of the many people who make a positive impression on his life.
My favorite part is feeling like I am getting everything done. I’m very busy but at the same time I’m able to do it all without really changing who I am and have been. I feel a real sense of accomplishment.
Has having your son affected your career path?
I don’t know how to quantify this but the answer is YES, having my child has affected my career path. More in the way people perceive me that anything else. A lot of people in our business assumed I would not return to work after I gave birth.
Did you find that your colleagues/clients treated you differently after you had kids?
I am very lucky to work with a very supportive group of people and for a very supportive firm. Most of the people I work with have been with the firm for many years, so we have all been there for each other during many life changes. I think it really helps to be a long-term member of the team before becoming a mom.