I think that that kind of time is vital to moms. Well, it’s vital to everyone. It’s just that moms get less of it than most.
There’s talk of the book being made into a TV series – is it true?
Actually, I’m shopping the book/show around to several different networks right now. The television show is in development with Jenny Bicks (a writer on Sex and the City, and the creator of Men in Trees) and Warner Horizon.
I think it’s appealing to people as a show because it’s a very contemporary look at motherhood. The women in the book are looking for autonomy. They want to be great moms, but they also want to be themselves. Also, there’s a lesbian mom and a single mom – rounding out our view of what motherhood looks like these days.
The activity of “drinking” is a hot topic, I think, because conventional wisdom tells us that moms should be somewhat pure and virginal – above vices. I think that’s unfair. Moms should be able to let their hair down as much as anyone else. I’m not talking about “blotto” – just unwinding once a week at a bar, apart from their kids.
Can you briefly describe your usual day?
I’m the opener and my husband is the closer. So he’s asleep when I get up at around 6 with my three-year-old and my seven-year-old. I love this time of the morning. I put on classical music (which my youngest calls “mommy’s music”) and we snuggle on the couch till we’re fully awake. Eventually, I put out some breakfast, while I’m chatting and playing with the boys. Then, at some point, I look at the clock and realize that we’re running REALLY late for my oldest, Spencer’s, school. I yell, “IT’S THE BIG PUSH!!” and all hell breaks loose. I madly pull on my clothes and throw clothes at Spencer. I hurriedly make a lunch for Spence. Then I shout at my husband that we’re leaving and he’s got Murph (the three-year-old). Spence and I charge out of the door, half running to school.
After I drop Spencer off, I go work out for 40 minutes. By the time I get home, my husband is rolling around with Murph. I shower and am out the door by about 10:30. I take my computer to a writers’ lounge and I write (with a break for lunch) until about 3 or 4, when I return home.
When I get home, I return e-mails and phone calls, while I talk to the boys and Pat (my husband) makes dinner. We all eat and chat. And then usually, Pat gives the kids baths, overseas homework and all that, while he does Sodoku. I pretty much assist. Sometimes it’s one parent per child, or all of us playing something or working on a project. At about 7:30, Pat reads the boys to sleep (he’s the closer, remember!) and I collapse. By nine, I’m really exhausted – sometimes I try to stay up till 10. But Pat refuses to watch movies on TV with me because I always fall asleep!