I remember more than a few times calling my mom and being so upset because I couldn't get my daughter to clean her room...it was like she was sitting on my last nerve..
My mother said 'Pick your battles'.
I was driving and wanted to throw the phone out the window! That's it? That's the 'talk me down from the ledge' response from my mom?
Then she continued, "Is this really the issue you want to get so upset about?"
In the 'big picture', a messy room is a 2 on a scale of 1-10.
I hear her voice all the time 'Pick your battles'...and it calms me down. I always ask myself is it worth getting so bent out of shape about? or probably not.
Moms...pick your battles!