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Remember a while back when Nataly shared with us that her doc told her to breathe?  Take belly breaths is what he told her.  Well as someone who practices and teaches yoga I'm all about breathing.  When I read her note though, I realized I wasn't doing it as often as I should so I made a conscious effort to start doing it several times a day.  I just stop what I'm doing, breathe in through my nose and fill my belly with the air first before I let my lungs fill up.  As I exhale I remind myself to relax my shoulders.

It's become a habit now.  A wonderful, glorious habit I don't have to think about.  I went from feeling anxious, stressed and overwhelmed to feeling centered and more in control.  Don't get me wrong, things are still crazy and I can't always get it all done but at least I'm learning to accept that.

And here's the best part: it's benefitting those around me.  Not only am I a happier wife (hubby was getting worried about the anxiety and stress), a sillier mommy and a more relaxed friend, my oldest is using this technique and she's only 3!  I've always encouraged her to take deep breathes when she's upset.  Well last night she had a complete meltdown which is rare for her.  She was very overtired and couldn't stop her crying.  She threw her hands up and said, "Oh, Mummy, I'm forgetting my big breathes."  Then she put her hands on her head and took several looooong deep breathes, looked up, smiled and said she felt better.  Then she attacked me with the biggest hug and said she loved me.  Just what I was thinking!

Not only did my heart melt but this really got me thinking: if we give our children the tools to combat stress and anxiety at such a young age will they be able to better help themselves when they are our age?  Will handling the juggling act be easier?  

I wanted to share this both so I wouldn't forget it any time soon and to encourage all of you moms to breathe with your children.  Next time they are upset and you find yourself getting upset too, remind everyone to stop for a moment and breathe deeply.  It gives you a whole new perspective!


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Naomi  10th Dec 07
Great to read!

Great reminder. It's been eons since I've been to yoga. Making myself a mental note to start back at classes THIS week!
Its a wonderful thing. As a dancer (post-modern.. i won't put anyone through the various genres, but for those who don't spend alot of time in out world, it basically means that we spend alot of time thinking and centering and creating our own thing..) breathing is a BIG part of what we do. when i work with kids/young people we spend alot of time identifying where in our bodies we carry emotion.. eg what happens when you are happy, sad angry etc.. so you shoulders go up, does your chest get tighter, do you tap your leg, clench your fist... etc... once we notice it, we try to breathe and figure out if the pattern is helpful or not and how we can change it or notice when it happens.

our kid has been doing deep breaths with her dad and i for a while now and it is truly amazing to see that little a person find their way through what i imagine can often be an overwhelming flood of emotion. thank you for the reminder...
it sometimes helps me to remember that I can barely handle my own emotions sometimes and I have had quite a few years to develop filters and strategies, so it is sometimes unreasonable to expect her to have the same coping skills unless i help her through it.

To be honest, I am sometimes envious of her ability to be able to feel so intensely. There are moments when i want to be unreservedly happy or angry or sad in that way that you can probably only embody at that age...
Nataly  7th Dec 07
Oh, what a great post - and what a great reminder that hmm, hmm, I should be doing that - doctor's orders:)
Florinda  7th Dec 07
I started doing some deep breathes while I was reading your note - it's amazing how powerful they are! I just need to remember to do them more regularly, and make it a habit.

My husband helps his kids use breathing to calm themselves, but he's not so good about it himself, so we should both work on it. Thanks for the great reminder, Mandy!
You make such a great point, Mandy... I am going to have to remember to do this. And I think you're right... maybe the juggling act will be easier if we equip our kids at a young age with the tools they need to manage stress. A broken toy or a rough day at preschool when you're 3 can be just as stressful as a broken computer or a horrible day at work when you're 30.
What a great post! My daughter actually does yoga and meditates when she needs to relax. She's better at sitting down and getting quiet than I am. LOL
Kate  7th Dec 07
wow! you have on amazing kid there! of course, she has an amzing mom :) i usually find myself using breathing when i am stressed, but awesome to integrate into a habit that i can do through out the day! and even better to teach my son! and maybe my husband LOL
Victoria  7th Dec 07
Thanks for the reminder Mandy! We all could use a little more deep breathing!!!
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