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She lived and then she died

That subject line is an exact quote from my 3 year old in regards to my 10 year old cat.  I don't think I would have gotten through Friday in one piece if it weren't for that 3 year old.  On the way home from the vet we both cried and then she said, "Mommy, we need tissues.  Lots of tissues.  Then we need to take deep breaths, lots of them.  And calm down."  Then she proceeded with her deep breathing. 

All day she followed me with tissues, telling me that I needed to calm down.  Sometimes she used the tissue before I did and all I could do was smile.  She was right and, while I was hearbroken over the loss of a pet, M had it all down.  I guess everything I said to her in the days leading up to this loss had really sunk in (isn't it always surprising to find out that they were listening and that they understand?).  She kept reminding me that I was lucky to have loved Sammy The Cat for so long. 

The next day, when her grandfather was taking us into Boston to see Annie (her first play and can I just tell you how proud I am of her for sitting through and loving it?!!?) she told him, "Grampa, Sammy The Cat is not coming home again.  She lived and then she died."


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KC  1st Apr
So sorry about Sammy
Kat  1st Apr
Mandy, I'm sorry about your loss of Sammy.
OK, I don't know how I missed this -- so sorry... I hope you guys are all hanging in there. And your daughter is a gem, really.
Mandy,
What a sweet story. And amazing to see how well your daughter, at 3, handled loss. Speaks to your parenting abilities.

Hope you are feeling better!
oh dang. sorry to read this!!!
I'm so sorry about Sammy. It sounds like your little one is a great support piller for you when you need it :)
klg  31st Mar
I'm sorry about Sammy. But what a sweetheart you have. I love those moments when I have proof that I wasn't talking to a brick wall.
Thanks for your kind words, ladies! This has been a sad but good experience for our family and I have great peace knowing my purr ball is not suffering. Thanks for the support.
Diane  31st Mar
Sorry to hear about your kitty.
Jean  31st Mar
Sorry for you loss! It never ceases to amaze me how truly wise children are!!!
Sorry to hear about your loss.... but LOVE your daughter's reaction.... so adorable!!!
Oh wow. I am without words. Thank you for sharing about this. I did that that trip to the vet myself a couple of times, about 20 years ago. I'll never forget it. Whew, was that tough. Kudos to the Munchkin for being as together as she was. And I think you have every right to act as heartbroken as you need to. Hugs coming your way.... - Paula.
Kate  31st Mar
WOW she has a way with words!! Isnt it interesting to experience the same comforting techniques you use with them being used on you!?
Sometimes, little kids have the best insights and wisdom. I love M's simple and poignant take on what's happened.

I'm sorry for your loss...
I sometimes think that the lack of true comprehension is a blessing at times. When I had to put our first cat down, he was 17 at the time and my daugther was 6. I wouldn't let her into the examining room with me, but after it was all over, my daughter held me as I cried. About a week or so later, she and her dad buried Kitty (I couldn't do it. Silly me, I was still grieving too much). And then 2 weeks after that, we got a dog and another cat. I'm now mom to 3 cats, 2 dogs, and 1 18-year old.

And it will just as hard for me to let go of them as if it were my own daughter.

Yep...she lived, and then she died...and she did so MUCH in between.

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