Okay, so I know that I a freaked out first time mom, but it is scary to let babyjama be around older kids. It's especially scary to let her be around older kids whose parents are very hands off.
Here's my story. Number one, we have friends with a young daughter (3 years old) and she is obsessed with getting to hold babyjama. I don't let her hold babyjama, unless we're sitting on the couch together. This has turned out to be a good solution, but it was hard for me to get to that point in the beginning. Her mother continually told her (before we got together, and without asking me) that she would be able to hold the baby when we arrived. It was very very scary the first time that this happened. Once I allowed the little girl to hold babyjama while her mom sat next to her and supervised. The mom got up to do something and the little girl just got up and moved....babyjama almost fell....luckily I was sitting very nearby. Now that babyjama is older and can crawl and sit up on her own it's not much of an issue, but it has been hard to have to set boundaries with someone else's child...isn't that her mom's job?
Number two, we have other friends with two little boys (5 and 2 years old). The other day they came over to play, and were throwing blocks EVERYWHERE, and I was worried that babyjama was going to get beamed. Their Mom kept yelling at them to be careful, and not to do that, etc. etc. etc. but then didn't actually get up to do anything about their behavior. Anyway, what is the etiquette for talking to someone else's kid?...especially when you're friends?
